What 'Type' Are You?
Somebody said to me that I seem like the type to have more male friends then female friends. I looked at this person very confused. I couldn't understand how he came to this conclusion. I mean, what did I say or do for you to 'type' me. Don't you hate when people just analyze your behavior just to group you? In the end, what's the point of getting to know anyone if you're comparing them to others. In a world where no two people are the same how come we categorize each other? I hate the phrases, 'Generally when someone acts this way....', or 'People like you...', or the dreaded, 'You seem to be the type...'. I mean, really, why are you comparing me and my behavior to someone else? I won't lie, I'm sometimes guilty of this. I'm a horoscope buff so as soon as someone divulges their sign I always try to find that one common denominator that makes people of that sign similar. The question is, why? Is it because we need to be able to somehow place each individual? Or is it just easier for us to adjust ourselves and our behavior to suit the next person. Whatever reason it is it seems to all boil down to you, the individual.Generally, when a person acts...
People like you...
You seem to be the type...
You know what all of those phrases above have in common? They're all relative to the individual doing the judging. If you took a pool of 100 people and you and your friend, individually, had to split this pool into 5 groups of 20 (opinionated type, shy type, angry type and so on) based on your own interactions with each individual of that pool you both would come up with 5 groups of 20 made up of totally different people. Why, because it's all subjective. Each individual's experience differs from the next. Today a friend of mine, while analyzing my behavior towards another individual, said, 'Generally, when people act like this they are subconsciously...' How about I'm 'consciously' aware of how I'm acting and it has nothing to do with some subconsious need. Could it be that my reason for acting the way I do is because of an issue seperate from what's 'generally' the reason most people you've encountered have? It kind of bugged me because I'm fully aware of how I feel and it was sort of patronizing to have someone try and put a 'type'to my feelings and behavior based on what 'generally' means in relation to them and their experience with others or from a book of psychology.
Since I'm trying to create my new divine world my first step is to try and not 'type' others. My world will be a better place.
posted by Jbrit @ 11:43 PM
1 Comments:
Judging judgement always seems to be an exercise in futility...as open minded as I'd like to think I am, I can't help backsliding into putting people into little boxes so I know what to deal with. Ah, the frailties of human nature. And welcome to blogosphere, J. ;-)
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