Friends With Benefits
Are these types of relationships healthy?I'm in what some would characterize a 'friends with benefits' relationship. I have this guy friend who is so uncomplicated. He listens. He advises. He's warm and most importantly trustworthy. So why aren't we 'together'...well we are but not in the conventional sense. See, between school and work I don't have the energy for the baggage that comes with having a boyfriend. Some would characterize this type of a relationship as very unhealthy because ultimately someone will catch feelings. Others will argue in today's fast paced world where divorces are just legal breakups it's so easy to just end it all. What's the point of investing time knowing you're not fully invested in making it work. I have so much going on in my life...deep down it's a temporary solution in this stage of my life.
Or maybe I should be honest with myself and admit my real feelings. Quite honestly, I don't even know how I feel about him. I like him but not in the way of 'I hope we have a long lasting relationship.' I'm physically attracted to him but I don't see myself with him for the longterm only because he one day wants to get married and have children...things I'm not sure I want. I don't see myself married. So right now I think I might be subconsciously keeping him in the 'friend with benefit category' until I figure out my next move. I don't want to fall deep for him but I don't want him to think I'm using him or worse he move onto someone else. I know one thing, I just answered my original question. It's not healthy.
posted by Jbrit @ 12:07 PM
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